P + GLBT = GLBTP, Where P = Polyamory Path to Empowerment by Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer, World Polyamory Association – firstname.lastname@example.org
I’ve been actively polyamorous for 21 years now and I’ve looked at polyamory from all sides now. From win and lose, from up to down, like the song, and my conclusion is that polyamory is the “right track!” As humanity evolves, it’s logical human rights emerge despite a few glitches in society’s system.
While it seems humanity’s polarizing and conservatives get more conservative and liberals more liberal–like a rubber band flexing to the extreme potential; eventually the rubber band and the society–will break and we’ll settle on a more even course. But the system won’t be as before; it’ll–hopefully–be way different, better, more balanced, equal, fair.
The path which expresses diversity, individuality, creativity and God-given free will is the human, civil rights path of choice. It’s pono, the right thing to do. Free will was given all beings in Creation by the Creator of All so that we might greater diversify existence as co-creators with Source. Freedom, free will is God/good/Source expressing itself.
The path to freedom always, eventually emerges on top as the primary operating system. It may happen gradually, but it will and does eventually happen. Polyamory’s a high spiritual path where love is honored to the highest degree. Free will, diversity, individual expression rule. We, individually and collectively as a society, need to reprogram ourselves to accept individuality and diversity. That means give up prejudice, racism, sexism or intolerance of any kind. Love and acceptance is the will and the way of love, light and GodSource.
A recent study featured on Huffington Post “Intelligence Study Links Low I.Q. To Prejudice, Racism, Conservatism” showed that prejudice and racism are an indicator of low IQ.
The Post asked: ” Are racists dumb? Do conservatives tend to be less intelligent than liberals? A provocative new study from Brock University in Ontario suggests the answer to both questions may be a qualified yes. The study, published in Psychological Science, showed that people who score low on I.Q. tests in childhood are more likely to develop prejudiced beliefs and socially conservative politics in adulthood.”
The article continues with “Dr. Gordon Hodson, a professor of psychology at the University and the study’s lead author, said the finding represented evidence of a vicious cycle: people of low intelligence gravitate toward socially conservative ideologies, which stress resistance to change and, in turn, prejudice, he told LiveScience. Why might less intelligent people be drawn to conservative ideologies? Because such ideologies feature “structure and order” that make it easier to comprehend a complicated world, Dodson said. “Unfortunately, many of these features can also contribute to prejudice,” he added.
Dr. Brian Nosek, a University of Virginia psychologist, echoed those sentiments. “Reality is complicated and messy,” he told The Post in an email. “Ideologies get rid of the messiness and impose a simpler solution. So, it may not be surprising that people with less cognitive capacity will be attracted to simplifying ideologies.”
We, as a conscious society cannot and will not allow the stupid to rule, lead and guide us. Intelligence rules or we perish as stupidity is nature’s natural method of selection which allows species to evolve and provide vehicles which house sentient souls who wish to explore life in physical form. Humanity is now at a crossroad, sink or swim, shit or get off the pot. As always the microcosm reflects the macrocosm.
Life is full of choices. I’m always drawn to make choices around my sexuality and relationships. I’ve been dating since I was 12 years old. I masturbated when I was pre-school, had my first orgasm during a female version of a wet dream (I awoke and was actively masturbating myself to orgasm). I’ve been the object of sexual desire even in childhood, when it wasn’t appropriate. So I of course ran from older predators.
And as a teenager, young adult, adult and now elder, I’ve always been open to explore relationships when appropriate and would immerse myself in the experience of my relationship choice or orientation, often for years. I am an explorer, in many areas and ways. I’ve explored sexuality and relationships for as long as I can remember. In the midst of all these scientific endeavors around my sexuality, acting simultaneously as explorer, scientific observer and witness, I’d often go boldly into the experience, once I made the decision regarding which path to take, have the experience then next day analyze my feelings and thoughts.
I’ve kept journals all my and through this process of experience, observation, analysis and reflection, I’ve reached the conclusion that I am and always have been polyamorous and bisexual. I didn’t always live from who I am and thus made myself (and others who tolerated my moods) miserable. I at times suppressed my true self and that led me to illness, disease and divorce. It’s much better to be true to myself. And it’s also best to find ways to be true to those in your life.
When I’m true to myself, I get consequences and repercussions with which I can deal. Truth feels far better than lies. Lies hurt my soul and others around me. I may chose in each moment to embrace life anywhere along the continua whose polar dichotomies are monogamous/polyamorous heterosexual/bisexual/gay/lesbian and flow with the tide that springs from my eternal/internal being. I always support choice.
I, since earliest childhood have always supported the GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered) movement. In fact, there wasn’t even a name for it back then. But it’s always existed.
Gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, polyamorous lovestyles and ways are as old as humanity. Polys have been marginalized, put in a box, shamed away. Yet, when no one was looking or if it didn’t matter socially or politically, we cross the lines and “walk on the wild side” if only for a night.
Time to stop living lies. Our society suffers from PLURALIST IGNORANCE where profess one thing and practice another. When will we finally get real? ADD `P” to “GLBT! I would hope that soon we might add `P” to “GLBT”. I understand it’s now “GLBTQ” with “Q” meaning queer. I hope that soon they might add a “P” for polyamory and it would be “GLBTP” or “GLBTQP”. You get the picture.
When that happens we come full circle and fully as a global society accept and embrace the full continuum and expression of love in life and we find polyamory is the highest expression of souls; we’re all one-loving oneness. We forget our universal, unconditional love state when we pierce the veil, come through the birth process to incarnate in physical form. But deep down inside we’re forever connected. When we meet we remember oneness of our souls and rejoice. Subconsciously we seek out one another. We find each another to share love, life, breath, bodies, the eternal beingness of our souls. It’s our true nature and when we find our beloveds, we naturally respond.
That’s why I chose polyamory for I know in the core of my eternal being that I am one with you all. I cannot and will not limit my expression of my true self when I meet you. I love. Love is. No one can ever deny love if they are true to themselves. I will, however, limit my personal, intimate interactions with souls who are unconscious. I love. That’s not the problem. The primary limitation is time because here on Earth as a human I believe in time. Time is a part of the operating system of this realm/dimension. Energy is another factor. There’s only so much time and energy in a day. And I won’t subject myself to abuse and drama. I love myself far too much for that.
When I see that spark, that recognition of GodSelf peering out through your eyes and I sense that you’ve done your work and have reprogrammed yourself to optimum emotional/spiritual health, I will discuss our connection with my other half, Sasha. And if he too feels it from all the cells of his being, we’ll begin a dialogue with our other partners and yours. And if all resonate, is copasetic to all, we’ll set up a date, then a series of dates and who knows how love grows, where love goes?
All I know at that point is that we’ve embarked on the polyamory path to empowerment, freedom road, the road that frees humanity to be true to itself. Janet Kira Lessin moderates the panel and community discussion, “How We Do Poly” at the June 13-15 Harbin Hot Springs California Polyamory Association
We chaired the first-ever congressional hearing focused on repealing the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), bringing us even closer to restoring the rights of all lawfully married couples to receive the full benefits of marriage under federal law.
Now, on the heels of our successful hearing, we’re rallying the American people to join the 145 congressional co-sponsors who are on the record in support of repealing DOMA, in an effort to win over the support of our colleagues who are still on the fence.
We respect marriage — for all Americans, including same-sex couples. Will you stand with us? [POLYS DEMAND THE RIGHT TO PLURAL MARRIAGE TOO. LET SENATORS LEAHY & COONS KNOW WE CLAIM THE RIGHT TO MARRY MORE THAN ONE - Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com]
Click below to sign on as a Citizen Co-sponsor of our DOMA-repeal legislation at WeRespectMarriage.com.
We’ve got lots of momentum behind us. In fact, a majority of Americans — 53 percent — now believe same-sex couples deserve the same right to marry as everybody else.
So when the Obama administration announced it would no longer defend the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in federal court earlier this year, we went a step further and co-sponsored the Respect for Marriage Act to completely repeal DOMA — which President Obama officially endorsed.
Then, just last month, this growing public acceptance — and the persistence of the pro-equality community — persuaded a bipartisan majority of legislators in New York to approve same-sex marriage legislation, after previously rejecting it.
Nevertheless, until we repeal DOMA, federal law will continue treating gays and lesbians unequally. That’s wrong — and we need to do something about it.
Justice delayed is justice denied, and for those lawfully wedded same-sex couples who have been denied the full federal recognition we both enjoy in our own marriages, the Respect for Marriage Act is long, long overdue.
That’s why — even if you’ve already contacted Congress or spoken out against DOMA — it would mean so much if we could publicly list your name as a Citizen Co-sponsor of our legislation to right this terrible wrong.
It’s often said that the wheels of justice grind slowly, but we’re teaming up to pick up the pace.
We hope you’ll join with us.
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Loving Thy Neighbor: I have SEX WITH THE COUPLE NEXT DOOR. Should I tell my kids about it? by Emily Yoffe email@example.com. From Dear prudence: Advice on manners and morals in
Slate Magazine for June 23, 2011
I am a widower in my mid-50s with three grown children and many grandchildren. My wife died 10 years ago, and three years ago I moved into a new house. I hit it off very quickly with my next door neighbors “Jack” and “Diane,” a married couple in their late 30s with a now-7-year-old son. Our relationship soon became sexual and we are a three-member “couple.” Their son, whom I love dearly, has his own bedroom at my house and calls me “Uncle.” The problem is my youngest son recently lost his job, is in terrible financial straits, and has asked if he, his wife, and two young children can move in with me! I haven’t told any of my children about my unconventional relationship. My wife and I had a happy marriage, and we raised our children in a normal, loving home. Yet when I met the couple I am with, everything seemed to flow so naturally that I didn’t give it a second thought until now. Turning away my son in his time of need isn’t an option, but breaking off my relationship isn’t an option either. Should I keep the whole thing under wraps while my son and his family are here? Jack and Diane think I should be upfront and tell my son, but then everyone would know about this. Most people wouldn’t understand, and frankly it would be humiliating!
Can’t Stop This Thing I Started
Now that Big Love is off the air, I hope HBO considers the possibilities of a series called Uncle Bob, which tackles both polyamory and the burgeoning social trend of broke adult children returning home. Since you’re a loving father who won’t turn away his son, you lay out clearly your three options for how to proceed: put your threesome on ice; sneak around; come clean. But since you say you’re unwilling to temporarily retire from your trio, that’s out. And, frankly, your grown son’s financial debacle shouldn’t require you to put the kibosh on your romantic life, however odd. Sneaking around may seem like a possible solution, but consider how that’s going to work. Announcing, “I’ll be staying over the neighbors’ for a few nights so that all of you can have the house to yourselves!” is only going to raise suspicions, especially since little Jack Jr. has his own bedroom at your place. I’m afraid I agree with Jack and Diane: The best course is for you to tell your son. This means explaining that, unlikely as it may beand no one is more surprised about this than youyou are in a relationship with the couple next door. Obviously, say you aren’t going to go into the mechanics of this set-up, and you intend to protect his kids, as you are protecting the couple’s child, from the details of your intimacy. (I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are.) Explain that you are only revealing this aspect of your personal life because privacy is going to be at a premium, but you hope he can discreetly accept your situation. Sure, it will be a shock, but ultimately news of your personal arrangements pales in comparison with being in financial freefall. How sly of you to choose Jack and Diane as pseudonyms for your friends. John “Cougar” Mellencamp may have sung about a similarly named pair: “Oh yeah life goes on/Long after the thrill of living is gone.” But your Jack and Diane have found that a once-lonely grandfather is the way to bring back the thrill.
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POLYAMORY INTERNET VIDEO: Ask_Dr_Helen/Threesomes,_Foursomes or_More!__Why_Multiple_Partners_Can_Be_Great with Janet Kira Lessin & Sasha Lessin, Ph. D.